What Do You Really, Really, Really Want?

If the 90s British pop sensation the Spice Girls ever get remembered for anything, I sincerely hope it’s for bringing the question “So tell me what you want, what you really, really want?” to the mass consciousness.

Now we may laugh at this, but when we really, really think about it, is there a more important question we can ask ourselves?

First and foremost, let’s define what is a want. A want is nothing more than a desire. And whether or not we get what we want is often based upon the strength of our desires.

I know many will probably argue with this last statement, but in some strange way, there is a part of me that truly believes that we all get what we want – at least, on some level. If you really had a burning desire to change your reality, you would do it, right? Well, I’d like to think so.

Now if you’re convinced that it’s time you actually start wanting more, then allow me to share four simple but powerful secrets.

1. Know what you want

If ever there was a personal development concept that was worth grasping, it’s most definitely this one: Know what you want. If you don’t know what you want, do you really believe that you have any chance whatsoever of getting it?

The sad reality of life is the fact that the majority of people in this world don’t know what they want. Even sadder is the fact that this is the way most people prefer it.

If you aren’t actively pursuing your own wants and desires, chances are that you will become a statistic of unfulfilment. Always remember that your employer, government, financial institutions, family, and peer groups will all be trying to shape your life according to their wants – not yours.

2. Ask for what you want

Once you are clear about what it is you want, you’ve got to ask for it!

Can you imagine sitting in a restaurant, reading the menu, making your selection, but not telling the waiter? What are your chances of getting a meal? Pretty slim!

If you are clear about what you want, you need to start telling other people about your aspirations. When you do this, you will find that others will conspire to help make your dream a reality.

I’ve personally had countless experiences of people going out of their way to help me once I had let them know what I wanted.

3. Expect to receive what you want

It is also very important that you start to develop the mindset where you just expect to get everything you ask for. When you set your brain a task or embed an expectation, it will naturally seek a favorable resolution.

To extend our restaurant example, once you’ve placed your order you create the expectation within your mind that you will get exactly what you want. If the waiter didn’t bring the meal you ordered, you’d naturally send it back and wait till they brought you what you asked for. Why not put this concept into practice in the other areas of your life? You’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results!

4. Take inspired action

Once you have decided upon what you want, asked for it, and established the expectation of receiving it, the only thing left for you to do is take inspired action. Despite what many self-help gurus might have you believe, most chances are success will not come to you without taking inspired action. Simple as that!

However, good news is you will soon discover that, by first working out the mental concept of what it is you really want, the outer steps will then unfold easily – almost automatically at times – without strained effort on your part.